The Secret of the Shadow: The Power of Owning Your Story
In The Secret of the Shadow, Debbie Ford goes to the next level in probing "the dark side," the shadow aspects, beliefs, and behaviors that hold the clues to our greatest selves. In this eye-opening and inspiring book, Debbie exposes a great paradox: On one hand, there are the limiting stories that we cling to, keeping us in repetitive cycles of suffering. And on the other hand, there is the gold - the life-changing wisdom and gifts - that can only be found in the dark.
The #1 New York Times bestselling author shows how our most self-defeating thoughts can become blueprints for a fulfilling, rewarding life.
In The Secret of the Shadow, bestselling author Debbie Ford shows us how to rediscover our true essence, which is hidden in the shadows of our own dramatic life stories. In her blockbuster The Dark Side of the Light Chasers, Ford introduced us to our "shadow." Now she uncovers our "story," the collection of beliefs, attitudes and behaviors that prevent us from having all the love, happiness and success we desire. She guides us to understand that hidden in the shadow of our stories is our magnificence, and our unique gift. The Secret of the Shadow shows that the stories we tell ourselves about our lives do not define who we truly are. In fact, they prevent us from grasping our purpose and potential. When we live in these stories, we engage in noisy internal dialogues, self-defeating habits and abusive behaviors. But once they are understood and processed, our traumas and failures, our pain and our discontent, will take us deep inside and return us to our Divine essence.
Our personal dramas contain important information and wisdom that can help us discover our essential selves and true purpose in life. The process of making peace with our stories requires us to identify, understand, accept and embrace everything in our past that has caused us pain. In order for us to heal, we must stop chasing what Ford calls "the feel-good moments" and embark on the extraordinary journey of loving and embracing all that we are. The process outlined in this book offers us a way out of the never-ending cycle of pain and discontent. Whether we suffer from depression, ill health, a sense of unworthiness, arrogance or low self-esteem, the road to healing is the same. This clear process (including action steps and contemplations in each chapter) will help you to discover your unique purpose and realize the fulfillment of your deepest desires.
As we make the inner journey of embracing our story and all its ingredients, we begin to see the life that lies ahead of us, a life that will give us the gift of our eternal selves.
Why I Wrote This Book
When I was in my fourth drug treatment center, there was a beautiful girl named Sue. Each day in our group sessions, Sue would stand up and whine about her mother, her husband, and her life. At first, I was enrolled in her complaints. But I also saw this woman as a huge bright light, a brilliant, resourceful and inspiring person. When I heard the same complaints and the same dramas come out of her mouth day after day, I couldn’t bear to listen to her anymore. I wondered why she couldn’t see the person I could see and why she was so committed to focusing on her smallness. It was in one of these groups when I was so frustrated that I heard inside my head, ‘That’s not who she is. That’s just her story.’ It became so clear, so apparent that she had no clue who her big self was. And it was clear that all her pain and suffering were a result of cutting herself off from the vastness and enormity of who she really was. As I saw Sue in her story, I saw myself in mine. It was the very story that had led me to addiction, to pain, to suffering, to all the ways I cut myself off from seeing my potential, my greatness, and all the things other people could see in me. Who would I be outside the story and the drama of Debbie Ford? That experience over 25 years ago propelled me into the world of self-discovery and learning about the ego, how we work as human beings, how we create the persona that we call ourselves and ultimately how we can stand outside of that story and experience the fullness of the human experience.
“Debbie Ford has a secret that will change your life - if you let it.”
- Cheryl Richardson, author of Life Makeovers
“Exceptionally compelling…Debbie Ford continues to transform our perspectives, giving us great tools and processes to help us transcend the limitations of our personal dramas”
- Marianne Williamson, author of Enchanted Love
“The Secret of the Shadow is a spiritual wake-up call for all who are ready to step out of the limitations of their personal drama and into the infinite possibilities of their highest self.”
- Deepak Chopra, author of How to Know God
“In a few hours’ reading your whole life can change.”
- Neale Donald Walsh, author of the Conversations With God series
“Acknowledge. Reclaim. Evolve. These are the core action steps Debbie Ford illustrates in this empowering new book.”
- James Redfield, author of The Celestine Prophecy